A long period of development must occur before children grasp that the other people around them have needs and interests just like they do and need to be accommodated and accorded respect.
The golden rule of treating others as you would yourself like to be treated makes no sense to a young child who has not yet matured to the point where this basic appreciation of the individuality of every person has been grasped.
However, I'm quite confident that it will never go away entirely.
It seems to me that bullying is just one of those things that are just a part of human nature.
Now, children are fairly narcissistic by their very nature.
Children are not born appreciating that other people are actually just like they are with their own needs and independent rights.
A blow to the head and you'd see stars like in the cartoons.
So by saying that bullying is a narcissistic action, I'm not at all saying that all bullies are narcissists.In making the second statement I'm suggesting that ring-leader bullies (those who organize bullying) are behaving as though the emotional and physical health of their victims is not important or is at least less important than their own desire for the thrill of aggression and dominance.Narcissists treat other people as though they were objects either to be used, or discarded, and the bully both uses his victim (for purposes of self-gratification and aggrandizement) and then discards him.Still, the experience has not left me, it sucked so much.
I don't think about it much these days, but I know that having lived through those experiences has shaped me as an adult, and not for the better.The experience of getting your face smashed in by bullies (or taunted by them, or pushed, or shoved, or excluded, etc.