Sure there are a few people who actually leave their wives when they have met their “soul mate”. Although he gets to the point where he is saying he loves the side chick, he is usually more in love with his kids.
In a loveless marriage with small children, the kids become more of a silver lining and the focus of all the reasons to deal with the unhappiness of no sex and conversation that only revolves around household duties (“did you pay the light bill?
Remember, no one deserves to be abused (mentally, verbally, sexually, physically or emotionally) EVER. You do not have to stay in an abusive relationship, no matter how stuck you feel.
The man more than likely plays into this often times telling her things such as “I wish I could have met you years ago”.